Abortion: the pro-life vs pro-choice ultimatum

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Over the years I’ve seen some pretty black and white statements about abortion, especially from the so-called Pro-Life movement and their followers. I’ve even seen someone stating that “if you’re not pro-life then you’re against it”. *Sigh*, no! Here’s a tip right off the bat: don’t fall for it! Whenever someone is making an ultimatum it should make you stop and think: why do they feel the need to do that? I am generally against making ultimata – especially about this subject – because it lures you into thinking that the world is black and white. Newsflash: it’s not! The world is the most grey place you could possibly imagine. Now, I don’t see myself as being an unreasonable or unintelligent person. I’m aware that not everyone is like me nor should they be. So many people have called me open-minded and inclusive, or non-judgmental, and even though the result is the same I don’t think that I am the latter, honestly I don’t, and here’s why:

1. My mom taught me to always consider views, opinions, you name it, before deciding if a point is valid a not. It sounds easy, and to me it often is because I’ve been doing it my entire life, but some might struggle – at least that’s what I’ve witnessed first hand. I’m going to teach my own kids the same because you either find that you don’t find a certain point valid and discard it, which is fine (obviously not talking about flat-earthers because that the earth is round is a fact and not an issue of opinion or belief, and frankly it makes me question how intelligent you really are), OR you find that maybe there’s something to it and change your own views (which you especially should if there’s real evidence involved). If that’s the case then congratulation! you’ve officially upgraded yourself through self-education. You can never be too educated. 

2. To the people who call me non-judgmental: you have confused being non-judgemental with being indifferent. That’s right! I don’t care if you’re a member of the LGBTQ+ community, or what colour your skin might be, and I am indifferent to your religion and beliefs. I’m sorry but who the fuck cares? As long as you’re a decent and well-behaved human being going about minding your own life and business – and don’t intrude or meddle with my life – then I don’t care. I didn’t wake up one morning and decide to be inclusive. It’s not a life-style choice. I simply don’t care.

My point is that no-one have the right to decide what’s the right choice to make on behalf of another normal functioning human being. Don’t steal away people’s choice with ridiculous laws and distasteful propaganda. Stop meddling in other people’s business and mind your own. (And now that I’m at it: the next time you Mormons or Jehovah’s Witnesses come knocking on my door I’m going to reserve the right to shut it firmly in your face. If people wish to be a part of something they will seek it out on their own, trust me.) 

Now, before you get too upset because you think you have me all figured out and that I’m saying limit-free abortion to all!, please stop yourself and hear me out: on difficult ethical subjects like this I do think regulations are in order. In Denmark you have 12 weeks to decide if you want an abortion or not (free of charge, of course, it’s Denmark!), and if you’re underaged (below 18) then you need to seek permission from your parents, or legal guardians. Of course there are exceptions to the rule that allows you to get an abortion beyond those 12 weeks. Historically, the 12 weeks were put in place because it back then reduced the risk of complications. In some countries it’s both fewer and more weeks, but I like our 12 weeks. It’s enough time to decide what to do, but not enough time that it’s actually a baby you almost have to birth. Mr English was kind enough to tell me that in UK it’s 24 weeks and by then, in my opinion, it’s way past its due date. As he phrased it: “it’s not like you forget that you’re pregnant. It’s going to occupy your mind day and night, 24/7.” And I agree with him. 12 weeks is a freaking long time, even if you have to put some things into motion and figure out important stuff. But at least you have a choice.

I must admit that if it was my country who had the audacity to meddle in my life to the extend of depriving me the right to my own body – to not trust that I know what’s right for me and my future –  I would feel deeply ashamed. That is my unfiltered, honest opinion. It’s 2019, people, and there is no place for that kind of thinking anymore. What worked 2000 years ago doesn’t work in our modern society. We have to move forward. We have to do better. That is all.

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7 thoughts on “Abortion: the pro-life vs pro-choice ultimatum

  1. You are so brave for voicing your opinion on a platform and in a place where you could receive a lot of hate. You’ve laid things out diplomatically and factually here.

    Thank you so much for being so brave!


    1. Thank you for your kind words. I truly don’t believe that any topic is taboo and I want to create a space here where we can discuss these things, so thank you!


  2. Preach it, gal! At the end of the day it comes down to something that should be, or needs to be installed into everyone’s DNA: You have no right to comment on ANYTHING that somebody else decides to do with their body. Whether it’s about abortion, fat-shaming, bikini fitness, it doesn’t matter, it’s not your body so your opinion is INVALID. Even if you’re the man who conceived the baby, you’re not the one carrying it around for 9 months, it’s not your body, your opinion isn’t the one that matters. Period!

    Teresa Maria | Outlandish Blog

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